We came across this article written for Women by Dr. Tanya Larisse, and found it to be quite interesting.
A Women’s Guide to Male Chastity Devices
Everything You Need to Know to Take Control of Your Man
by Dr. Tanya Larisse
Girlfriends of mine have long been envious of my wonderful husband, Ron. Never have they seen such a well-mannered, sensitive and caring man. What they don’t realize is that their own boyfriends or husbands could be turned into the same. As a Doctor, and a Dominant Female, I’ve written this primer on male chastity to give all you ladies out there the opportunity to turn your toad into the prince you’ve been dreaming about.
Step 1: Purchase a Male Chastity Device
This is often the most difficult step. Your goal is to convince your man to purchase and wear a chastity device. Explain to him that doing so would make your relationship stronger, happier, more fun, and intimate. It’s not that you don’t trust him, but you’d feel very special being the one and only one that has control of his sex. Reassure him that by making you his key holder, he’s taking a step towards long term happiness for you both.
Step 2: The Arrival of Male Chastity Device
Ensure the device contains all pieces (refer to accompanying instructions). Practice locking and unlocking the device until you’re comfortable doing so. Have your man affix the chastity device to his genitals in the manner prescribed. If it’s placed on correctly, the device should be comfortable, allow for urination, yet restrict his erections and not allow him any direct contact with his penis.
Step 3: The Locking of Male Chastity Device
Ask that he allow you to lock the chastity device in place. Most devices are locked with a simple padlock. Simply affix it as directed in the instructions and snap it shut.
Congratulations! With the closing of the lock, your relationship has taken a great leap. You have just become the Key Holder of his Manhood.
Step 4: Changes
Having a chastity device locked around his genitals usually means some simple physical changes for your man. First, he’ll likely have to sit while urinating. Secondly, he’ll have to get used to sleeping on his back or sides as sleeping on his stomach may be uncomfortable. Neither of these are very severe and he should be adapted within days.
Step 5: Accepting Your New Role
By holding the keys to your man’s chastity device, you now have the power to ensure he remains loving, loyal, and respectful to you always. Basically, by holding the Key to that Device locked around his Genitals, you truly now get to Control Him and His Actions.
Women throughout history have long known that most men are driven almost entirely by their penises. Because of this fact, men can be very charming, caring, and considerate to a woman in order to gain her assistance in achieving an Orgasm. Once the orgasm has occurred, however, men tend to put those wonderful qualities on the backburner until the urge for sexual relief comes back. What’s more, if you refuse to assist him in achieving that relief, he’ll resort to masturbating and take care of the problem on his own.
Do you see the power of that Key now? As long as you hold the Key, your man’s days of masturbating are over forever. Furthermore, you now have the power to limit his orgasms, providing them sparingly, only when he has earned the privilege by Pleasing you. You’ve become the sole proprietor of his manhood and, as such, have paved the way to making him the man you’ve always wanted him to be.
When he looks at you now, he not only sees his Wife, but also the only person capable of providing him with Sexual Relief. You, the woman, have complete control of your man’s sex – this is the way it should be. In no time flat, you’ll find him getting very Huggy and Kissy, buying you gifts, and offering to take you to Dinner or give you a long and wonderful massage after a long day at work. Sound nice? It is. His total focus will now shift to making sure that You are Happy, and that he is providing You with any Pleasure you desire, even if you decide not to let him have any Sexual Gratification at the same time.
Step 6: Establishing the Rules
The first thing you’ll need to do is decide on a schedule for his Sexual Relief. For men new to being locked up in a Chastity Device, I recommend you begin with at least allowing him to have a Sexual Release on a Weekly Basis. This doesn’t mean that once a week, every week, he’ll be let out of the Chastity Device for some action. It means that if, during that week, he’s made you happy, he’ll be given a Sexual Release. If you want to use him for mutual Sex, that’s Fine. If You want to put him in Bondage, and Masturbate him to a Release, that’s also fine. You might even want to make him Masturbate himself in front of you, and make him lick up his cum.
Whatever turns You on, works, because You are the Key Holder. If You do not want to give him a Sexual Release on a Weekly Basis, that’s also fine. His wait for Release will be extended for a period that only you determine. Very quickly, he’ll learn that if you’re unhappy with him, a lack of Sexual Release for him will be the consequence. What’s more, since he should only be given the opportunity to have one Orgasm per week at best, he’ll appreciate them so much more. Soon he’ll understand the importance of always making you happy and, will soon equate your happiness with his own. He will soon go out of his way to make sure that You are getting all the Pleasure You desire.
Another important rule you’ll want to establish is that he will no longer be allowed to play with himself – at all – Ever Again! You and only you will have the power to fondle, caress, or stroke his manhood. In doing so, you reinforce your autonomy as the sole provider of his sexual pleasure. If he wishes to be let out of the device for any reason, allow it, with the stipulation that his hands be tied behind him with Rope, or pair of handcuffs. Don’t ever take the Device off of him unless he is bound.
When the time comes for his release, allow it in a manner you choose, as we have already talked about. If that means a passionate bout of love making, so be it. If it means you giving him oral sex or a hand job, those work too. If You want to make him Masturbate Himself, so be it! Once he’s had his orgasm, immediately place him back in the device, and lock him up.
Step 7: The Chores
Be assertive in having him help with the housework. Very soon it could be you laying on the couch and watching TV while he does the dishes as opposed to the all too common reversal of those activities.
This isn’t a license to abuse your power. By all means, you should also share in those chores. However, you’ll likely find that he’ll be offering, on his own accord, to do just about all of them. After a while being locked up in his Chastity Device, he’ll do just about anything to please you.
Step 8: Your Sexual Pleasure
Just because he’s prevented from achieving sexual relief doesn’t mean that You are! This is the perfect opportunity for him to perfect his Tongue Technique. Multiple times Weekly, and even Daily, if You wish it! He’ll be very happy to do so as keeping you happy Sexually. He’ll be hoping that each time he pleases You, you might unlock him and allow him some Sexual Relief also. A word of Caution here – Don’t become Predictable. It’s ok to give him a Sexual Release when he pleases You orally, but make sure that most times, he does not get a Relief also.
Last but not least, have fun with it! Don’t be afraid to put on the Goddess Routine. You deserve it now – You have the Key! The voracious Sexual Energy you’ll generate in him by doing so can be channeled into pleasing you. Use your imagination. Be Creative. Dress the part of a Domm sometimes, and drive him wild, whether You decide to let him have a Sexual Release or not. Nothing will drive him more Crazy than coming home from work to find you decked out in your Leather and Heels, and not knowing if you are going to allow him Sexual Relief, or just use him for Your Pleasure. Have Fun!
Soon, You’ll Love keeping your man in a Chastity Device and wonder why you didn’t do it right from day one when You were married. Your man will soon Adore you like he’s never Adored any woman before.